I have neglected my blog a little but I am back and this is my first post of the year! 😆
By the name of this post, maybe you’re thinking “What is Adulting even?!” Might I add that it’s not a real word but the urban dictionary defines it like this “To do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as, a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown ups.”
Ha! That is just the tip of the iceberg to be honest.
Adulting is no joke. I feel like i’m still that little girl that spent ages trying to get into the swing of learing how to ride my bike. It took me a while to learn how to ride my bike when I was younger and, i just didn’t get the hang of it as quickly as i’d like to have. But I got there eventually. This analogy may not entirely apply as such but it’s a similar feeling. I’m at what you might call the “early stages” of adulthood and obviously this is going to be a good ride but a long one, but i’m still trying to find my footing. And it wasn’t until recently as i was having a conversation about mortgages with my boyfriend that i realised, all the aunties that say “You’re still young” are simply lying.
Some of the simple yet challenging things adult life requires of me:
- Be responsible (This is not difficult but still…)
- Save and invest my money
- Get enough sleep (Don’t let anybody tell you this isn’t important)
- Enjoy a social life
- Maintain healthy Friendships & Relationships
- Maintain a good living and plan for the future
- Excel & progess at work
- Fulfill purpose
- Maintain my inner peace
- Get a car, life insurance, health insurance
- Make sure to have a pension plan
I’m pretty sure that’s not even the entire list and I am more than likely doing poorly in some areas but still learning nontheless. Adulting looks like who can multi-task the best and strike that balance. Although I’m always writing, I recently found myself caught up with other things, hence the absence of posts. But if you were to ask me what “other things” I’ve been caught up with – I couldn’t tell you!
That saying “Life comes at you fast” is becoming ever so real these days. I know that most times it’s a matter of anxiety overwhelming me. This journey of life honestly never claims of a dull moment. And, It’s not so much that being an adult is hard but striking that balance is. I’m sure you’ve heard people saying that you don’t have to have it all together in your twenties and so on, whilst that sounds satisfying for my conscious, I think we all would like to’feel’ that we have it together or at least that things are coming together…
However, this is the beauty of a process, the beauty of becoming, creating, and crafting the life I want for myself.
It wouldn’t be right if i didn’t end this on a positive note. To the standards of the World it may look like i’m getting maybe a grade C or maybe D at this adult thing, but I have to remember it’s not about how well I’m doing life according to the standards of society but to the standards of Christ and my purpose. Some scriptures come to mind when i feel the overwhelm of anxiety approaching:
- The World is a temporary place: Romans 12:2
- I can cast all my anxieties on Him: 1 Peter 5:7
- There is a time for everything: Ecclesiates 3:1-8
So, even though adult life may prove challenging, We tend to find our footing and I know i’ll find my mine and my rhythm like I did when I learned to ride my bike for the first time without falling.
My strides, My pace.
Liz Coker ~